Commitment cannot be a single-minded decision, with one partner issuing all the rules and conformities. It has to be a mutual agreement of needs and requirements in a future you want to share together, with commitment levels you present to each other open to compromise and discussion.
Pre-conceived ideas or fears about commitment is understandable and is essentially preparing you to understand the difference between promise and commitment.
Being committed in a relationship is a mutual agreement between a couple and not just one partner making all the decisions. Assessing a relationship and judging its progress would help you in making any future commitment in a relationship.
Here are sum signs that would show that you as a couple are committed in a relationship:
1. Love and respect: The love and respect that you have for each other. Ignoring what your partner’s views and dreams are and trying to impose yourself on him/her or vice versa, and trying to imbibe his/her personality and losing your individuality is not love or respect. Growing in love and caring for each other’s needs, likes and dislikes are good signs, but compromising on your individual standards is not healthy.
2.Loyalty: If you are loyal to your partner in every aspect and also loyal to your relationship and the promises that you have made to each other, then there is no doubt that you are in a committed relationship.
3. Honesty: If you truly share your feelings and share yourself in the presence of your partner, then it is a sign of being committed. Apart from this, if you have been honest about your past and truthfully have told your partner about your future plans then it shows that you are in a committed relationship.
4. Spending time with each other: You should have feelings to care for each other and should look up to fulfillment of your partners’ needs and desires. If you have such feelings and live up to the expectations of your partner then you are committed.
5. Being there for each other: Life is not a bed of roses and there are times that you might have to go through ups and downs in life. In such case, if you and your partner stand for each other, support each other and still see the love and care for each other, then this shows that your relationship is a committed one.
6. Trust: There is no relationship that can survive without trust. The basis of every relationship is trust! If you and your partner trust each other completely then there is commitment in your relationship.
7. Getting engaged: If your partner wants to get engaged to you then it shows that your committed relationship is moving to another strong bond. Getting engaged is a big decision, which means that you are ready to marry the person, you are seeing and this means that you are moving forward.
So these are some of the signs through which you can know that you are in a committed relationship or not.
